Believe it or not, your best chances for growth do NOT come when things are going well. And it certainly does NOT come if you are surrounded by Yes people.
I know that many of my coaching clients find that their most stubborn block to potential growth is the belief that they will have to start doing lots of new things to support their growth. This seems overwhelming for many and becomes a self limiting belief.
To help you to understand this better – Let’s reframe that.
If you are feeling stuck or unproductive and your time just doesn’t seem to stretch around the list of jobs and people you need to get to then perhaps it is time for you to STOP some of your current patterns of behaviour. This simple reframe makes it much easier for you to influence change in your own behaviours and to shift thinking towards growth.
A great approach to use is when you have recognised that you are stuck and open to reviewing your own behaviours is KISS.
Now you may know KISS as Keep It Simple, Stupid – however not in this case. My use of KISS stands for Keep, Improve, Stop, Start and can be easily applied to you as an individual or to your business or relationships – in fact, into most areas of your life.
To get KISS started, ask yourself these 4 key questions:
- What am I doing well? (What should I KEEP doing?)
- Where are my blind spots? (What should I IMPROVE?)
- What should I STOP doing that turns people off? Is not productive? Does not serve the relationship? (Lots of ways of asking this question to suit the situational behaviour you are examining)
- What could I START doing that will build relationships? Increase my productivity? Improve my energy levels? (Again, lots of ways to ask this question depending on circumstances)
Journal your responses and email me with any questions or comments you have.
I believe the key question to ask yourself so that you can Start Stopping is this one:
What am I choosing to say YES to right now that I should be saying NO or NOT NOW to?
Do you find saying NO difficult? You are not alone – it is a very common problem which I will cover another time.
To get comfortable with saying no, remind yourself that NO does not mean: Not Ever – it can simply mean: Not now. You have got this!!!
Throughout the world right now, there are many different challenges – challenges most of us have never imagined and probably have not faced before. During tough times, it is way toooooo easy to become negative about our lives and to be a bit tough on ourselves. Something that you can do for yourself right now to develop a consistently positive self-talk is to get signed up for my Managing Your Self-Talk Mini Course. This is great information that I am currently offering FREE and feedback from those who have done it has been awesome so share with any friends or family you feel may benefit from mastering the art of positive self-talk as well.
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