Can you remember the most recent fight you had and what it was about?
My guess is that it was about something like this – a decision being made without you being consulted or too much money being spent on something, or the mess left in the kitchen or whether or not the rubbish bins were put out. You probably wanted attention, or you wanted to be right. You may even have been dayammm cranky, angry at someone else and feeling like a fight.
You see we mostly fight about trivial things, things that in the scheme of things are not really going to matter in 10 minutes or 10 days or even 10 weeks. All this takes up our time and our emotional energy and often the fight is not about what we really should be talking through. Some of us get into a huff and hand out the silent treatment for days at a time. Some fight loud and rude and hard and then get over it quickly.
I know that the most common interpretation of the word fight is as a “disagreement, as a fist fight, as our armed forces going off to fight in a war or terrorists fighting for their cause”.
I want to discuss another definition of Fight. Consider this…. To Fight is to use a lot of effort to defeat or achieve something or to stop something from happening.
Wow!! To achieve something! I really like that.
For me this puts an entirely different spin on Fight. It reminds me that we all have fight in us and instead of fighting about whether or not the lawn has been mown or how much this week’s groceries cost, we should use this fight, this energy, to fight for the things that are really worth fighting for.
I believe that we should use our fight to Fight for our Dreams.
Fight for possibilities and for another try. Fight for change and for creativity and inspiration to feed this change. Fight for happiness and fight to learn and grow and come back from your failures.
Fight to achieve the targets your want and to push through obstacles. Fight for your right to take a chance, the make mistakes your learn from and fight for more in your life.
Fight for your own greatness and the best opportunity to achieve your fullest potential. Fight for quality relationships and love. To love and to be loved.
Fight for your freedom and your right to be, do and see anything you want.
Fight for your personal well-being, for your health and for your financial wealth.
Fight for the honesty, the truth and the authenticity that you deserve. Fight for a life without monotony in it, where you have spontaneity and colour and where you can and do reach your full potential.
Fight for the job you want, that dream job, whether it is your own business or working for someone else. Fight to manage your reputation so that you can achieve your dreams and make a difference in the lives of those who matter to you.
Fight for Choice – your greatest SuperPower – and for the right to be in charge of the decisions you make and to continue to challenge yourself to be the best version of you…. every single day.
Fight for your vision, your ideas, your dreams and your destiny.
This fight is not likely to be short, loud or rude or obviously aggressive. Rather, this fight will need to be consistent and determined and it will show up in every single belief, in every word and in every single action you take, every single day.
Ultimately it will show up in your results.
This fight won’t be easy or over quickly. It will take time and energy as you push towards your targets.
This fight will be totally worth it. Leave the small fights to those who fight small and get on with fighting for you, for your vision.
I am reminded of this quote by Charles Bukowski:
“People are strange: They are constantly angered by trivial things, but on
a major matter like totally wasting their lives, they hardly seem to notice.”
So…….Remind yourself that there will NEVER be a better time than right now to begin to Take notice and make the time you spend fighting worthwhile. Fight for your Dreams.
Beth xx
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