Where does the locus of control sit in your life? If you have handed your power over, exactly how do you get it back?
You always have a choice – in all areas of your life – to either accept your position or to change it. Yep. That is a fact. You always have a choice.
Oh…. how quickly we forget this. Choice is your right, your power or your opportunity to choose. It is yours. And because it is yours, no one can take it away from you except you. No one can diminish the power of your capacity to choose except you. Heady stuff.
Think about just how regularly you are faced with the choice of either accepting your current position, situation, circumstance or of going after something else, standing up for a different outcome? This is never a comfortable space to be in however it is in exactly this accept or change, stay or leave, spend or save space that it is so easy to get stuck in. For weeks and months while your life rolls past you.
I know you want to get out of that space and learn how to stay out of it so let’s take a look at the potential outcomes – or consequences of each of these choices – accept or change.
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Much of the time your decision to accept your current position or circumstances hands your power over to external factors, to others. And what can happen is that you begin to believe that all your decisions, and as a result your life, are controlled by outside factors, by other people and you feel absolutely powerless to influence anything. So, you plug along hoping that something will change and feel less and less in control or able to do anything about the things that keep on happening to you. You have shackled yourself with this limiting belief. Yes, I know that it is very easy to believe that fate has decreed that this is your lot in life. We all know people who would much rather complain than take action to change anything – and in this age of social media many of these people complain anonymously. Why? Because complaining becomes more comfortable than making the decision to take action to change. Let’s repeat that….
Complaining becomes more comfortable than making the decision to take action to change. WOW!!!
In order to connect with your SuperPower of choice, it is critical to remember this – When it comes to changing your position and your circumstances, you hold all the power. You can influence change, quickly and effectively by making just one decision and by shifting the locus of control from external to internal where you take full responsibility for all aspects of your life. You are always just ONE decision away from a whole new life.
Sometimes what stops us from making changes to relationships, health or our jobs is that we are afraid. Fear is a massive controller. It is real easy to buy into fear driven questions like “What will I do then?” or “What will people think about me?” When you are afraid, the easiest answers to thes question is a negative and you begin to doubt yourself. This is your fear talking. This is an awesome example of your fear holding you back. You fear is distracting you from making ONE vital core decision. “Do I want to be …..in this situation……in this relationship……this job…..this weight….any longer?” You can fill in the blanks.
This closed question requires a simple Yes/No answer. Maybe, as an answer, will not cut it.
If your answer is Yes you do want to be in this situation, I suggest that you start immediately to reframe your thinking. Stop complaining and start appreciating the things you have to be grateful for. Amazing things will begin to happen as you focus deliberately on the positive in your circumstances and you learn to live with and embrace them rather than complaining.
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If your answer is No you do not want to be in this situation your next step is to begin planning how to change things. This decision is empowering for you, gives you permission to take control of your life and will fuel your motivation. Amazing things will begin to happen with this one decision.
I can already hear you asking just how to approach planning to change things. My 10 tips for this are:
- You know what you don’t what so now decide what you do want
- List the steps that you believe you will need to take to get there
- Do some research to check out what resources might be available to support or assist you
- Ask yourself over and over again why it is essential, critical for you to put this change in place. This will be your reason WHY so it is important to get deep to the truth
- Break each step down in to a number of actions and give each action a realistic time frame that you can achieve it in
- Find someone that you trust that you can share your aspirations with – someone supportive, impartial who will be honest with you and who will celebrate your achievements
- Continue to make one decision at a time as you move through the actions you must implement to achieve the changes you desire
- Celebrate, celebrate and celebrate again and often as you tick off each action
- Continue to make decisions that lead you to something amazing every single day
- Remember that the standards you have for yourself set the standards for how others treat you
Most importantly of all – take back your power and build confidence in your own ability to control your life through daily decision making and action in all areas of your glorious life.
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Following these tips will help you to reconnect to your SuperPower of Choice and to let go of the pattern of complaining when things are not going your way. You will move into the driver’s seat of your own life and step out from underneath the fear that has been controlling you. And once you take back control of your own life, take back your own power – you will be unstoppable. Let’s get things moving for you.
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