I love Christmas because it is a time for connection and joy and celebration. I love to spend it with people I care about – my chosen family – relaxing, enjoying each others company, the food and the fun. I know that for many Christmas can also bring very real stress, overwhelm and pressure to keep up with others. To help you to navigate this next week or so with ease and with grace, here are some Wise Tips to help you stay calm and grounded and make the most of the holidays.
Wise Tip 1: Stop Complaining and Start Celebrating
It’s easy to focus on what’s not going right—whether it’s holiday mishaps or family drama. Instead, shift your perspective. Celebrate the wins, however small they may be. Did someone smile because of you today? Did you complete one task on your holiday checklist? Take notice of the things that are going well and let them lift your mood and brighten your day. I find that gratitude can be a great antidote to stress and frustration.
Wise Tip 2: Please Yourself Before Pleasing Others
Make sure over this time that you are deliberate about carving out some time that is just for you time. Whether you’re on holiday or juggling plans to get together with others or complete shopping or finalise the cooking, find moments to relax and recharge. Do something that makes your heart happy – read a book, sip your favourite drink in peace, or take a quiet walk. Better still book in a massage. Remember that you can’t pour from an empty cup, so nurture yourself first.
Wise Tip 3: Limit Comparisons
The glittering social media posts and perfect holiday pictures can make anyone feel like they’re falling short. Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your own progress. Reflect on how far you’ve come this year and set goals for the future. Remember: your journey is uniquely yours, and that’s something to celebrate.
Wise Tip 4: Be Kind to Others—and Yourself
The holidays are a perfect time to practice kindness. Take every opportunity to extend compassion to others, whether it’s a kind word, a thoughtful gesture, or a helping hand. And don’t forget to be kind to yourself. Give yourself a break when things don’t go as planned -because perfection isn’t required to enjoy the season.
Wise Tip 5: Change Your Environment
Feeling stuck or overwhelmed? Frustration and negative emotions building up? Step away, even briefly. A quick change of scenery – whether it’s stepping outside for fresh air, retreating to a quiet room, or just moving to a new spot – can give you clarity. This change will create the mental space needed to respond thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively.
Extra Tips for a Calm and Joyful Christmas
Get regular sleep over these next few days to keep your energy steady.
Dance to your favourite music, turned up loud – it’s a natural mood booster!
Move your body – go for a walk, swim in the sea, stretch, or channel frustration by punching a pillow.
Centre yourself by focusing on your surroundings—notice colours, sounds, and sensations.
Let go of idealized expectations. Embrace what is and find joy in the imperfect. Wishing you and your loved ones a very Merry Christmas – spending time focused on the things that really matter. 🎄✨